But I Don’t Remember It That Way
There is one sentence that can stop attempts to repair a tumultuous or estranged parent/child relationship in its tracks. For many, thi...
Tag Archives: Trauma
Meditation for People Whose Minds Are Never Quiet
The first time I meditated, I did it for the extra credit. My professor at my undergraduate university offered bonus points to anyone w...
How I’ve Stopped Letting My Unhealed Parents Define My Worth
“Detachment is not about refusing to feel or not caring or turning away from those you love. Detachment is profoundly honest, grounded ...
When the Therapy Room Becomes Another Closed Door: Why Traditional Western Mental Health Care Fails Survivors of Torture and State Violence
A woman sits in a therapist’s office in a Western city. She fled her country after surviving months of detention, interrogation, and to...
What Was Really Behind My “Laziness” and What I Know Now
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~Carl Rogers
I remember sitting on the living roo...
Learning to Speak Up When You Were Taught That Your Feelings Don’t Matter
“A proper grown-up communicates clearly and assertively.”
This is something I have heard many people say.
By that definition, I wouldn...
A Little-Known Truth About People-Pleasing and How to Stop (for Good)
“Being a people-pleaser may be more than a personality trait; it could be a response to serious trauma.” ~Alex Bachert
Growing up in a ...
How to Overcome Ultra-Independence and Receive Love and Support
“Ultra-independence is a coping mechanism we develop when we’ve learned it’s not safe to trust love or when we are terrified to lose ou...
Addiction, Trauma, and the Problem of Being Present
The Power of ThenI remember one day in rehab, after a particularly gruelling day of group therapy, the facilitator decided to end with ...
How To Love A Trauma Survivor
Everyone deserves to be loved, especially the people who didn’t get love growing up. We all deserve companionship, affection, attention...